trick or treat?

Happy Halloween! Though I'm not really sure what is / are the exact date(s) for Halloween, but I supposed it's around end October, yes?

Well, I'm not really someone who religiously follow the events of Halloween, but don't you think it is an event  / celebration that caters to everyone? :)

So this year, my partner and I decided to go the Halloween event at Sentosa, since we went for USS Halloween Horrors last year. Frankly speaking, it was a total joke! The ghost actors weren't really acting, and they were not at all scary. I hear less screams, less chasing and less of everything. It was a total disappointment. The haunted trails were also a major FAIL!

I WAS VERY DISAPPOINTED! >:(

Regular priced tickets are sold at $66.60, but thank God we only got it at $30 each from a reseller in a forum.

We alighted at Sentosa Beach station, and was greeted by the Ghost Tram. After a good 5 to 10 minutes, we reached Fort Siloso where the event is held. We were pretty excited (at first) as it's our first time here!

There were five haunted trails altogether, but we only managed to visit 4 out of 5 of them as the waiting time for each trail were too long!

We literally waited 2 hours or so for the Shutter trail, which lasted less than a 5 minute walk in a pretentious dark room. Another hour for the Coming Soon trail, which also lasted less than a 5 minute walk in a room that was supposedly to show us the "raw footage" of how the main character died? The Pee Mak trail was the fastest trail ever! Don't even bother queue for that one, unless you have lots of time. And the Body trail was the best of the 4 we went. It was the longest trail with many different smoke effects & surprises!

Overall, it was an experience that I may not want to look forward to in the future, haha! But nonetheless, it was the company that counts. We had fun laughing and teasing the poor acting skills of the actors though, haha!

Till the next Halloween! Cheers!

and so they said...

You have to take risks.We will only understand the miracle of life fully when we allow the expected to happen.

Every day, God gives us the sun - and also one moment in which we have the ability to change everything that makes us unhappy. Every day, we try to pretend that we haven't perceived that moment, that it doesn't exist - that today is the same as yesterday and we will be the same as tomorrow. But if people really pay attention to their everyday lives, they will discover that magic moment. It may arrive in the instant when we are doing something mundane, like putting our front-door key in the lock; it may lie hidden in the quiet that follows the lunch hour or in the thousand and one things that all seem the same to us. But the moment exists - a moment when all the power of the stars become a part of us and enable us to perform miracles.

Joy is sometimes a blessing, but it is often a conquest. Our magic moment helps us to change and sends us off in search of our dreams. Yes, we are going to suffer, we will have difficult times and we will experience many disappointments - but all of this is transitory; it leaves no permanent mark. And one day we will look back with pride and faith at the journey we have taken.

Pitiful is the person who is afraid of taking risks. Perhaps this person will never be disappointed or disillusioned; perhaps she won't suffer the way people do when they have a dream to follow. But when that person looks back - and at some point everyone looks back - she will have her heart saying, "What have you done with the miracles that God planted in your day? What have you done with the talents God bestowed on you? You buried yourself in a cave because you were fearful of losing those talents. So this is your heritage; the certainty that you wasted your life."

By the River Pidera I Sat Down and Wept by Paulo Coelho.

pain for pleasure. 

Pain is a pesky part of being human. I've learned it feels like a stab wound to the heart; something I wish we could all do without in our lives. Pain is sudden hurt that can't be escaped. But then, I have also learned that because of pain, I can feel the beauty, tenderness and freedom of healing. Pain feels like a stab wound to the heart, but then healing feels like the wind against your face when you are spreading your wings and flying through the air! We may not have wings growing at our backs, but healing is the closest thing that will give us that wind against our faces. So even though pain hurts, going through it will make you a stronger person.

We are often let down by the most trusted persons and loved by the most unexpected ones. Some makes us cry for things that we haven't done, while some others ignore all our faults just to see our smile. Some leave us when we need them the most, while some stick to us even when we ask them to leave.

hello stranger. 

In life, you meet the bestest people that you could ever ask for. Someone whom you hold dearly and closely to your heart.  And most of the time, these people are the ones that will be there for you through thick and thin in life. They are the precious diamonds among any other rocks and we treasure them a lot.

I'm not talking about family or relatives over here. They are of course inevitably the best people in your life, no doubt about it. The ones who took care of you, feed you, provide for you, do their best as they can to give you a life that you deserve; teach you all the right things from wrong; to lead you to the right path and not go astray, yada yada... all those non obligatory sacrifices they made can't be replace with nothing but unconditional love.

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We are all seeking that special person who is right for us. But if you've been through enough relationships, you begin to suspect there's no right person; just different flavours of wrong. Why so? Because we are "wrong" in some way and we seek out partners who are "wrong" in some complementary way. Having said that, it also takes a lot of living to grow fully into our own wrongness. And it isn't or haven't until we finally run up against our deepest demons, our unsolvable problems; the ones that make us truly who we are; that we're ready to find a lifelong mate. Only then do we finally know what we're looking for.

Truth is, we are looking for the wrong person; the right wrong person- someone we lovingly gaze upon and think, "this is the problem I wanna have". And at the end of the day, we will find that special person who is wrong for us in just the right way.

I'm glad I did.

 Love is when you look into someone's eyes and see everything you need.

when the saints go Marching in. 

It’s already March? What the hell? Is time really catching up with me?

Well, life’s pretty happening for me. And yes, I’ve been really occupied with work (holding two jobs now anyway), spending time with loved ones, friends, colleagues, kids, babies, new colleagues, old colleagues; almost everyone.

I can say honestly, I am very happy with my life right now. Not that I’m not in the previous years, just that I’m really contented now and wouldn’t ask anything more or less of it. Things happen for many reasons. Some will disappoint you, whilst some may change your life forever. As for me, as I look back through my first three months of 2013, it’s been a blast.

Several events occurred to me that got me thinking. Why do we always feel dissatisfied with what we have now? Why is there a desire to go for more? Is the so called “pot of gold at the end of the rainbow” really something that we really want in life? Why do we have expectations in life? And why do we make expectations on others? Is it even right to have those expectations or judgement on others? If not, what is considered “right” then?

At the end of the day, do we really get the answers that we want? And even if we did, do we feel satisfied with it? If we don’t, will the vicious cycle of this unsatisfactory feeling repeat itself?

12.12.12

“Relationships are not just about criticisms, not about being in love, not just about accepting someone for whom, what and how they are. It is just about everything; acceptance of flaws, holding on to promises and looking an imperfect person perfectly.”

Let's see.

Just a short quick update after a super long hiatus.

Well, right now, I have a bad bad case of writer's block. Like serious serious case of blockage happening. I just can't....write stuff down. (Perhaps tooooo many good stuffs in my mind, hehe). Hell, I even tried, "smoking" my way through, but I see no smoke. Just plain white space. Oh wells, let me try to get my mojo backkk.

On another note, I'm having a jolly good time in the year 2012, despite the world's gonna end soon. Spending time outside with loved ones; creating memories, overcoming the obstacles in life, and coming back stronger than ever. 

2012 felt like it came just yesterday.

I came to realise that, the one that I used to hate, the one that I always criticise and wished that she was not a part of my life, was the one who was always there for me. And now I have learned to forgive and forget, removing all the negativities and the all the pre-conceived judgements I used to have on her. It wasn’t really that difficult actually; when you open your heart and learn to accept and forgive, you eventually reach to a realisation that you’ve become a better person in life.

Life can be difficult, no doubt. People are always looking for an influence, someone to look up to, someone to emulate. You can set the example, be the motivation that can really impact another. You can help change the world by changing yourself first. Change must come from within.

Having said that, why the decision to post an entry now? Not yesterday, tomorrow or next week?

Two reasons: #1, As cliché as it is, today is the 12^th December 2012. Usually, a normal, typical human being will want to do something significant on such unique dates, which of course is very normal to do so and I have nothing against it, yes?  Yeah, yeah I do claim myself to be atypical, unorthodox, yada yada, but I’m only human and humans just do what humans do, righttttttttttt?

 And #2, For those who knew, I received two pocket diaries for Christmas last year from my BFFs (which in the end, I only used one, oops). Frankly speaking, I’m never the one that keeps track on my schedule kind of person. Trust me, I have the messiest room at home albeit I’m the only daughter in the family. So the notion of, “A girl’s room should always be neat and pretty” is invalid, pronto.

Anyhoo, before I start digressing even further, the other reason that I decided to post today because Christmas is coming! Totally unrelated but yeah, Christmas is the season to be happy and merry!  I, personally love this time of the year; the weather; the social gatherings; the gifts exchange; the festive mood; the happy songs, all of ‘em. It just brings smiles to everyone cos it’s such a happy occasion. Now now, I’m neither a Christian nor a Catholic and neither do I believe in Christianity and/or Roman Catholic views. Before I go in deeper into this issue, let’s just look into the view that Christmas is an occasion that brings happiness and people together, alright?

Christmas will definitely be a blast this year! My calendar is filled to the brim with lotsa gatherings, events, weddings and whatnots! Tell me how not to get excited for all this!

With that, I shall just abruptly end with some photos taken for the past few months. Toodles ~ 

June '12 - South Korea, North Korea, Busan-Haeundae Beach, Inje County

June '12 - Vivo - Sentosa - Mount Faber :) 

July 2012 - Bestest 22nd Birthday Surprise with my SNSE-Y Girls + Zul @ Sentosa ! 

August '12 - :) 

August '12 - First Hari Raya as a Family :') 

September '12 - BKK trip with my Seoulmates! :D 

October '12 - BFF "longtimenosee" gathering! 

October '12 - Heat Stroke & Dehydration. 3D2N in SGH :/

October '12 - Dinner & Desserts :) 

November '12 - Cooking up a storm in Sports Kitchen! :D

November '12 - First Family dinner + Ibu's birthday celebration! :)

December '12 - Vanessa Tan Guan Hui's Wedding Ceremony! 

December '12 - Batam short getaway with SNSE-Y girls! 

the greater your capacity to love, the greater your capacity to feel the pain. 

Love can be the most beautiful thing that can happen to one’s life and at the same time be the worst experience.

To feel loved and appreciated are more than enough to put a smile on one’s face. Knowing that someone in this universe, apart from your family, notices you, and probably at most thinking of you, gives that butterfly feeling in the stomach that makes you feel good about yourself. That alone potentiates an individual to go beyond ordinary ways or do things that you would not imagine yourself doing. Walking a mile to get to his house or waking up early to share a 5 minute breakfast just so you could see him.

Love allows you to feel that you are floating through air up in the clouds when you are merely falling. No guarantees whether what you are feeling is real but for that moment in time, it is the only thing that matters to you. But you see, not all good things last. As fast as the speed of light, everything else that used to make you feel great could turn into the things that cause tears to fall nonstop. The attempt to forget, search for explanations, the journey in getting over someone would be the toughest path you’d walk in life. You may be bleeding half your blood out and yet you are nowhere half of the journey.

Pain, similarly to love, makes you do things unimaginable. You would wake up one day finding yourself crying your eyes out. You fall asleep with tears wetting your pillow. It would make you want to stop at the middle of the road so you could transpose the pain to something physical. Sometimes you’d even wish to no longer see the next rising sun. Love and pain, exactly opposite yet goes hand-in-hand to make you realize that what you had was real.

I seek for comfort amidst all storms that have come my way. I’ve lost sight of the light that used to guide the path I walk into. I’m merely hanging onto my dear life to come out of this alive.

Through this, I pour out my what I think, feel, believe as a form of survival. If not, I might just simply go insane.

ol' skool yo 

Call me old fashioned, or whatever, I am still gonna use blogger :P

gentlemen and ladies. 

This happen too many times that I just need somewhere to rant this.

With all due respect to all humankind in the whole wide world, universe, mars, planets, outer space, under water, and whatnots,

I HATE STRONGLY DISLIKE GENTLEMEN.

Okay, don't get me wrong on not liking men, and that I like women. No, for pete's sake, I have nothing against the gender or sex for that matter. I'm perfectly, 100 percent straight, not a bi-, not gay definitely.

Anyway, as I was saying about gentlemen. I mean we are living in the 21st century, does chivalry still exist? Do these men or women know what is the meaning of chivalry in the first place?

After all these years, I guess it is safe to say that not many people know what it truly means and how it came about.

Let me take you through.

Ever wondered why is it "ladies & gentlemen" and not "gentlemen & ladies"?

why is it "ladies first" & not "gentlemen first"?

why is it "men have to pay for the date, cos it's considered being a gentlemen" and not "women have to pay for the date, cos it's considered being a lady"?

why "men have to open the door for women",

why "men have to carry the women's handbag (or any bag)",

why "men have to treat and pamper women",

why "men should drive",

why "men are stronger* than women",

why men here, men there... (and the list goes on and on and on...)

...and not the other way round?!

Enough said, I'm quite sick and tired of the world revolving around men doing things for women.

Come on girls, you are as strong as them! Humans are made equal (besides the biological make up of course) and there's no need for the segregation of gender and sex.

WHERE'S THE GENDER EQUALITY IN THIS WORLD?

WHY THE NEED FOR GENDER DISCRIMINATION?

WHYYYYYY?

Most of the Presidents in the world are men. More men are involved in the military, more men are involved in sports, more men are involved in ALMOST EVERYTHING.

WHYYYYY! :(

But anyway, I'm not an extremist in promoting feminism as I believe that women or in fact every living being in this planet have their own beliefs and rights, yes?

You wanna play football?
You wanna play the PS's Need for Speed, Assassin's Creed, Street Fighter?
You wanna play Dota, CounterStrike, Diablo, Maple?

WHY THE HELL NOT?!
(I played them before, they're quite fun!) - no link but it's okay.


This post is not only to guys but also to girls out there who may have some trouble adapting to your hormones and whatnots. Nah, KIDDING!

This post is not dedicated to anyone. It's just a post, yeah blog post. Heh.

For what's it is worth, I think I'm done here. And chivalry is/will be dead for good.

No offence to anyone. Any resemblance to anything or anyone is purely coincidental.

Till then!

*stronger not only physically, but mentally, emotionally, etc